My Ex is being suicidal

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Matt Ogle

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I broke up with her a month or so ago. Im long over her now. I mean, ive already pretty much had another relationship since her hah, but that went to shit and i lost that girl because of college. ANYWAY, but i still care for her very much as a friend. If she were to even damage herself remotely because of me, id be heartbroken. Obviously, its a problem of insecurity and immaturity on her part, so i dont think id kill myself because of her own suicide. ahha. No, this is not a laughing matter.

Im asking for advice. What should i tell her to convince her not to be so ridiculous? Im not an idiot, im fairly wise down this department(Love, breakups, advice), so im asking anybody who knows how it feels to be heartbroken on SR, what would you tell her to get over it?

Thanks. It means alot.
 
brandon kilbury

brandon kilbury

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tell her parents or a counselor, someone who reallly can help, it shouldnt be up to you. I was in the same position with jessica a ton of times and i made the mistake of trying to take on the responsibility of making her feel better when it really only just tore me down.
 
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Matt Ogle

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brandon kilbury said:
tell her parents or a counselor, someone who reallly can help, it shouldnt be up to you. I was in the same position with jessica a ton of times and i made the mistake of trying to take on the responsibility of making her feel better when it really only just tore me down.
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yeah. I feel like its my fault. But i know its not.
I think im going to tell someone. She "wont take help from anyone", but ive got to for her best interest.
 
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ghost24

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Try to put in persepective. Explain to her how your just one guy, theres a billion of them out there, and one of them is made for her, and that guy isnt you.
And on the suicidal part, remind how much other things she has to live for, and if she killed herself, how would her parents and friends live with that? Remind her that people care for her. Go take her out to do something, show her you care, but make sure she knows it as friends, maybe bring her friends with her so she knows its not a relationship thing.
 
brandon kilbury

brandon kilbury

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Matt Ogle said:
brandon kilbury said:
tell her parents or a counselor, someone who reallly can help, it shouldnt be up to you. I was in the same position with jessica a ton of times and i made the mistake of trying to take on the responsibility of making her feel better when it really only just tore me down.
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yeah. I feel like its my fault. But i know its not.
I think im going to tell someone. She "wont take help from anyone", but ive got to for her best interest.
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and yours, if you try to take it upon yourself to pretty much save her life i guess (although theres a good chance she wont do it) itll just stress you out and youll wanna do it too haha
 
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skooterkid

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I've been heartbroken :(but i eventually got over it. Just don't get too into it if you know what i mean. Think of it as a....wound. You dont want to touch it but just let it heal on its own. Haha. It'll all be alright Matt
 
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Matt Ogle

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yeah, im trying to give her space. and her parents will be contacted soon if she keeps this up any longer. Its only been a couple days, and just today she claimed she will calm down. But obviously, she is going nuts so she can flip at any second. Thanks for your wisdom BK/everyone else. <3
 
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CorCor

Member
yeah just handle this in a good matter to where no one gets hurt just tell her the truth and talk to her in a calm way dont be harsh with her tell some of her friends too just to watch oveer her
 
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Corey

Member
if you know its not your fault, you shouldnt be bothered. of course you care for her and obviously wouldnt want her to hurt herself either way, but id tell someone of higher intellect and profession etc. you can still talk to her, or not talk to her at all until shes better. she WILL get over it, gauranteed. i was in the same situation with a girl i was dating and she got like insane about shit after i dumped her, and i distanced myself from her and she calmed down and it all came together and we talk now and shit. good luck
 
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danielwarwick

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i have talked so many people out of "suicide", but never because of a reason like that, so she's doing this because of her relationship ending with you? when we talked it sounded like something totally different.
 
the_SD_local

the_SD_local

I own SR.
I didn't really read any of these posts but all I have to say is: Grow some balls and tell her to get it over with already. She won't actually do it because she is just looking for attention but if she tries to actually do it then you definitely know you don't want to be with her.
 
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zprestoe

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yeh sorry to be disrespetful? but i kindof think its for attention i have a suicadl friend
whose only doing it for attention it happens.

but tell someone nothertheless.
 
brandon kilbury

brandon kilbury

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the_SD_local said:
I didn't really read any of these posts but all I have to say is: Grow some balls and tell her to get it over with already. She won't actually do it because she is just looking for attention but if she tries to actually do it then you definitely know you don't want to be with her.
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i love you haha,id say the same thing except for that like .001% chance a highschool girl is serious about being suicidal
 
Roycee

Roycee

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When my girlfriend of like 2 years dumped me i was pretty cut =[
But then my best friend told me "There's plenty more fish in the sea" and that made me feel better =]
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skadityska

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if she's really that torn up and has gotten to the point where she realizes that theres actually no point to life, she needs to have therapy and get some lexapro.
 
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