Romance help thread.

Matt Ogle

Member
yeah..... complicated situation again but i pretty much just got dumped
a week before christmas, and our 6 months wouldve been on christmas eve :/

Well, why did she dump you?

And just letting you know, and this is coming from a guy who is IN LOVE with the girl who dumped him, if she dumps you...its because she doesnt want to date you. Whatever the reason may be, she made the decision that she doesnt want you. Although it is hard, theres not much you can do at this point. You can try to win her back for like a week if you want, but it probally will just be humiliating and pointless. Dont depress yourself over it. Get off her myspace/facebook/pictures. Try to ride your scooter and have fun with your friends. It doesnt seem there is much for you to do except move on and let the hurt fade away. It will but you just have give it time to do so. : / sorry though man. I feel ya.
 

Scott Trainer

Super Moderator
Staff member
we were "taking a break" this week, to see what she wanted to do. and i basically went through everyday just waiting and wondering. todya she told me that she still doesnt know, we could get back together real soon. so were pretty much completely broken up atm, so that im not juts waiting and hurting more everyday, and i respect her decision for that. i believe her when she says she actually does still care about me, and i still do about her too. were still gonna be amazingly best friends though, nothing is really gonna change except for the fact that were not really 'with' eachother, we still say i love you and all that. shes still coming to my families for christmas dinner, so who knows whats gonna happen. im not gonna bother her about it and risk ruining anything, so im just gonna kinda keep reminding her i love her and dont wanna see anything bad happen. maybe therell be a next time, i hope so :/

sorry this was so long
 

felinaferoz

The name is Margaret
There is no point in being in a legit relationship when youre in high school
or college for that matter.

Be super nice, bang a lot of decent ladies and stay clean.
 

Scott Trainer

Super Moderator
Staff member
^ i know im gonna get made fun of, and i know thisll sound weird since im young
but i just cant think like that since ive met her
 

Joe Riley

The Gypsy
Staff member
Alright well me and this girl went out for 9 months, then she broke up with me to go out with this other guy. Now her and that other guy are over, and I still really like her and she likes me a lot. The problem is that even if she is dating someone she flirts with like every other guy, and sometimes cheats (never has on me, but on other guys) and yeah we all know how much it pisses you off when you gf flirts with like every other guy. I want to start dating her again, but yeah I do not really trust her that much anymore, and shes starting to become like a huge slut. Everytime I try to talk to her about she just kinda blows it off, and denies it all, when its true. And the reason I dont just want to start dating her is cause nothing ever works out if you dont fully trust them. But yeah I actually like her a lot but im just confused in what I should do?
OMG SOUNDS LIKE MY EX

if i were you, i wouldnt go back. just sayin.
 

felinaferoz

The name is Margaret
^ i know im gonna get made fun of, and i know thisll sound weird since im young
but i just cant think like that since ive met her

that was directed at everyone.
i didnt even read what you wrote.
not to make your feelings insignificant.
but fuck anyone who makes fun of you.


EDIT: NOW that i read it.
id say stick with not bugging her and frineding it. most young ladies are dense and are in a love daydream believing anything anyone says including their idiotic frineds.
boys on the other hand have no understanding of the ridiculousness that goes on in female heads at a million mile a minute to be of any use.

double EDIT: sorry this isnt my love advice thread.
 
Okay so i have been dating this girl for about 8 months, and a few weeks ago we had a fight where we "broke up" her parents who just happen to be psycho took it serious and now they wont let her see me because they dislike me. We didnt talk for like 4 weeks and i couldnt stop thinking about her, and we started talking again, and we still care for each other. But now theres this other kid that she likes a lot, and they hang out alot. Hes asked her out and she denied him twice because she still cares about me. But she plays a lot of mind games it seems with me. Like she claims that i "cheated" on her because i told some girl 1000 miles away "i cared for her". She takes that as a serious cheating offense, and now she doesnt trust me to hang out with ANY girl and if she finds out she gets PISSED. But she can hang out with whatever guys she wants because she says she didnt fuck up. She says were back together but i dont know if i should believe her because she obviously has feelings for this kid. And because of her parents we have to secretly hang out for a few months, she never gives me a approximate month. I dont wanna leave her because shes all i got and if i left her it would be hard to find another girl because i am not good with talking to other girls because im shy. What should i do? Move on? Or See what happens?
 

Jackson F.

Bronze member
this is for my friend, so this new guy moved here and started flirting with the irl that he likes and then starts talking shit about my friend and somwhere along the rode i got involved. so i was wondering how to get rid of this douchebag and help my firend
 
Well matt I did what you said and decided you give her another chance, and yeah we talked about it and its all going to work out now haha. Had a super fun night with her tonight.

Thanks for the advice man.
 

Matt Ogle

Member
that was directed at everyone.
i didnt even read what you wrote.
not to make your feelings insignificant.
but fuck anyone who makes fun of you.


EDIT: NOW that i read it.
id say stick with not bugging her and frineding it. most young ladies are dense and are in a love daydream believing anything anyone says including their idiotic frineds.
boys on the other hand have no understanding of the ridiculousness that goes on in female heads at a million mile a minute to be of any use.

double EDIT: sorry this isnt my love advice thread.


hell no dont apologize, your the only female that probally even knows anything about relationships here anyway. and your right, most women seriously do have the most confusing thought processes on what a good "relationship" is, or what they "want in a guy". <3
 

Matt Ogle

Member
Okay so i have been dating this girl for about 8 months, and a few weeks ago we had a fight where we "broke up" her parents who just happen to be psycho took it serious and now they wont let her see me because they dislike me. We didnt talk for like 4 weeks and i couldnt stop thinking about her, and we started talking again, and we still care for each other. But now theres this other kid that she likes a lot, and they hang out alot. Hes asked her out and she denied him twice because she still cares about me. But she plays a lot of mind games it seems with me. Like she claims that i "cheated" on her because i told some girl 1000 miles away "i cared for her". She takes that as a serious cheating offense, and now she doesnt trust me to hang out with ANY girl and if she finds out she gets PISSED. But she can hang out with whatever guys she wants because she says she didnt fuck up. She says were back together but i dont know if i should believe her because she obviously has feelings for this kid. And because of her parents we have to secretly hang out for a few months, she never gives me a approximate month. I dont wanna leave her because shes all i got and if i left her it would be hard to find another girl because i am not good with talking to other girls because im shy. What should i do? Move on? Or See what happens?

- YOU NEED TO BREAKUP WITH THIS GIRL ASAP. Once you feel like "she is all you have left", and once she has you whipped into believing you are the predator and she is some kind of prey, it is totally unhealthy. Relationships are supposed to be mutual. If she is getting special priveldges than you aren't doing the yourself any good. Hangout with your friends. Granted, hanging out with alot of girls when your in a relationship isnt the smartest thing to do, you cant AVOID girls completely. Hang out with some here and there. This girl does NOT sound like shes in your best interest. She sounds manipulative and like the man of this relationship. Either A) take charge of the relationship and tell her where you stand as a mutual partner, and fix/change things between you two. Or B), move on. I ADVISE MOVING ON.

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this is for my friend, so this new guy moved here and started flirting with the irl that he likes and then starts talking shit about my friend and somwhere along the rode i got involved. so i was wondering how to get rid of this douchebag and help my firend

There will always be assholes in life. What i would do- talk to the guy head on and be real. Tell him i dont have a problem with you, so i'd appreciate it if you stopped takling shit and we can move on in our lives. Dont go straight into your typical guy "im gonna be him up!" attitude. Rationality normally wins the battle. If he doesn't stop all of the drama after you have confronted him, than in all honesty i would completely ignore him and move on. If the girl doesn't see that he is a complete jerk, and dont forget, some girls LIKE THAT!, then she doesnt deserve your friend anyway.

And Graham, i hope i helped <3
 

felinaferoz

The name is Margaret
Okay so i have been dating this girl for about 8 months, and a few weeks ago we had a fight where we "broke up" her parents who just happen to be psycho took it serious and now they wont let her see me because they dislike me. We didnt talk for like 4 weeks and i couldnt stop thinking about her, and we started talking again, and we still care for each other. But now theres this other kid that she likes a lot, and they hang out alot. Hes asked her out and she denied him twice because she still cares about me. But she plays a lot of mind games it seems with me. Like she claims that i "cheated" on her because i told some girl 1000 miles away "i cared for her". She takes that as a serious cheating offense, and now she doesnt trust me to hang out with ANY girl and if she finds out she gets PISSED. But she can hang out with whatever guys she wants because she says she didnt fuck up. She says were back together but i dont know if i should believe her because she obviously has feelings for this kid. And because of her parents we have to secretly hang out for a few months, she never gives me a approximate month. I dont wanna leave her because shes all i got and if i left her it would be hard to find another girl because i am not good with talking to other girls because im shy. What should i do? Move on? Or See what happens?


i have no idea what you look like so i cant give your ego any confidence.
but being shy is a bullshit reason to stay with a manipulative, egotistic and emotionally abusive asshole.
she is not the last girl youll ever touch or love. dump her ass and show yourself that you dont need to take shit from bad blooded people who dont deserve your time of day and are incabable of showing you true care and love.
being truly loved is having complete confidence in another person that they will not hurt you willingly or intentionally.
she cares for you on the most superficial level.

on another note friendships are relationships.
caring for a friend on deeper emotional levels should be encouraged regardless of gender,
without love there is not friendship the same does not apply for a relationship anymore.
some people do not believe that a deep bond with a single other human being is feasible but it is embedded within us through nature which is really the only separation between friends or otherwise.
 

proudlefty

Steel Member
Ok nobody has posted in here in some time. So I asked this girl out last nite and she said yes this morning :). So I'm really glad but I don't want to be a bad boyfriend. Do you have any tips to being and good bf and keeping ur gf happy? Also I have a lot of friends that are girls. Can I still hang out with them? Or do I have to completely focus on my gf?
 

Nate Grant

Steel Member
thats a classic haha. My 2 best friends are girls, and it doesn't help that i've had things with them in the past. My current gf is slowly becoming used to me hanging out with them, but it really takes time. my advice is just work it in slowly, and don't do anything dumb haha. girls already have a hard time trusting guys, and lets face it, most guys are pigs. so prove her wrong and eventually she'll be fine with it.

As far as being a good bf, just be yourself. do what you would normally do, if she likes it, good. if not, don't change yourself for her, thats not being honest. just my advice
 

Matt Ogle

Member
thats a classic haha. My 2 best friends are girls, and it doesn't help that i've had things with them in the past. My current gf is slowly becoming used to me hanging out with them, but it really takes time. my advice is just work it in slowly, and don't do anything dumb haha. girls already have a hard time trusting guys, and lets face it, most guys are pigs. so prove her wrong and eventually she'll be fine with it.

As far as being a good bf, just be yourself. do what you would normally do, if she likes it, good. if not, don't change yourself for her, thats not being honest. just my advice

your posting in the wrong thread man, this is the MATT OGLE'S ROMANCE HELP THREAD. :)
<3.

yeah, just be nice and fun. At your age, i cant give much advice other than to just be compassionate and caring for her. See if shes right for you and shell see if your right for her. You can hangout with your friends that are girls, there is nothing wrong with it. Just dont put yourself in tempting situations, like if you know a girl has a thing for you, than just stay clear of her out of respect to your relationship with your gf. good luck!
 

proudlefty

Steel Member
your posting in the wrong thread man, this is the MATT OGLE'S ROMANCE HELP THREAD. :)
<3.

yeah, just be nice and fun. At your age, i cant give much advice other than to just be compassionate and caring for her. See if shes right for you and shell see if your right for her. You can hangout with your friends that are girls, there is nothing wrong with it. Just dont put yourself in tempting situations, like if you know a girl has a thing for you, than just stay clear of her out of respect to your relationship with your gf. good luck!

Thanks matt. Yeah I think it's really gonna work well, we're so compatible that we can practically read each other's mind. One time we were working on a project together and all of the sudden started singing the same random song, we started at the exact same time, and out words matched perfectly. We were cracking up for the rest of the class period.
 
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