Romance help thread.

Matt Ogle

Member
i cannot get over girls.
i had this who big shindig with this chick for like a few months. but we got really close. like it was kinda scary cause ive had quite a few girlfriends and nothing was this close. and i think its cause i actually liked her and i wasnt just trying to get some. but her mom caught us hooking up. couldnt talk to her a while and i didnt even know when she got her phone back cause she never got ahold of me. And finally i got ahold of her though myspace and shes completely over me. I was crushed and idk. That was about 3 weeks ago and i havent seen her since the week before halloween.
Still can't get over her. at all
- Yeah man, I can relate. I had a girl my senior summer. Met her in July. Was infatuated by August. Died by October. But anyway, if you guys were really that close and you really think she mutually cared about you (sounds like she did from what your telling me), than I can almost positively tell you she is NOT over you. The thing is, this girls family is against her and that’s the biggest barrier for a relationship you can have at your age. For all we know, her parents could have told her “you talk to him again, your out of the house”, or something to the extent. I really have no idea what the reason may be, but my advice to you is NOT to push her. Tell her (through a text or in person preferably) “hey, I know that things arent perfect right now, but I need you to know im still crazy for you. Im not going to push anything on you though. So if you want to work this out then let me know, I want to make it work. I miss you.” Something sweet just letting her know you understand her situation but are dying to make it work out. Don’t pressure her and DO NOT REPETIVELY TRY TO GET AHOLD OF HER. Just make the one move and move on afterwards. If it was meant to be, it will work itself out. If not, your living in a world with millions of women. Odds are you will find someone better.


matt, i see what youre saying and it all makes sense. but im not necessarily mad at him, im pissed at the whole situation.
her friend "forgets" were going out, and gives this guy my gfs number (biggest thing pissing me off)
and then its pretty much exactly what youre saying, he has no respect for me. hes trying to sweet talk her into everything
- Well the situation is very grim haha, but a lot of it still depends on your girlfriends decision to keep the flow chart in progress. If she had already pressed the “stop” button than we wouldn’t have a problem. But yes, the situation isn’t a good one.
 

Tylerr.

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Well we kinda got into one fight after cause i was super pissed off and kinda took it out on her the one time i got to talk to her and was like wtf why didnt u call me. and shes like its just not the same anymore.
so idk.
shes the kinda girl that'll hide everything and pretend she doesn't care until she actually doesn't.
 

Scott Trainer

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yea i get what you mean matt. we talked about it, it got pretty ugly but it all seems good now. she cried, but it had to be put out there. were still together and she probly wont talk to this kid as much anymore

ill admit though, before we talked my anger got the best of me. i punched my door and migthve broken my knuckle. its all swollen and purple now (and i punched it about 2 hours ago)
 

Matt Ogle

Member
Well we kinda got into one fight after cause i was super pissed off and kinda took it out on her the one time i got to talk to her and was like wtf why didnt u call me. and shes like its just not the same anymore.
so idk.
shes the kinda girl that'll hide everything and pretend she doesn't care until she actually doesn't.

Yeah i understand. I still get angry at my ex whenever we talk at times. Just understand, even though its hard not to sometimes, the anger isnt helping your case. If you really want to try to win her back, be understanding and kind (even though its a bitch i know). Be the bigger man. Get her roses with a card that simply says "Im sorry". If anything, that atleast get her to think it over. But getting mad will only get her to think "It's so different now!" rather than "I miss him". And if thats her personality, than thats her personality. It probally will not change for you, but again, there is nothing wrong with trying. (just dont go overboard or get yourself depressed all time time) haha.

and trainer- im glad you talked to her about it. It definately needed to be done.
 

Tylerr.

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Staff member
haha forsure.
I think im just gonna get over it cause ive been thinking alot about it and im just gonna wait it out and try someone new ;)
 

Riley Hughes

Steel Member
matt so theres this girl i really like. long story short, she likes this guy named corbin, and me. he is a player who cheats on every girl he dates and said he only wants to go out with her to get in her pants. also, she will be really tight and he just wants to fuck her and chuck her. and she wont listen to anything anyone says about this guy.. you know? i dont know what to do. i mean i actually really like this girl and he just wants to get in her pants yet she still likes him. but she also likes me, so she isn't dating either of us. i guess my question is, should i sit around helplessly watching him seduce her, or what should i do? and im not fighting him he's 2 years older than me and way bigger haha
 

Matt Ogle

Member
matt so theres this girl i really like. long story short, she likes this guy named corbin, and me. he is a player who cheats on every girl he dates and said he only wants to go out with her to get in her pants. also, she will be really tight and he just wants to fuck her and chuck her. and she wont listen to anything anyone says about this guy.. you know? i dont know what to do. i mean i actually really like this girl and he just wants to get in her pants yet she still likes him. but she also likes me, so she isn't dating either of us. i guess my question is, should i sit around helplessly watching him seduce her, or what should i do? and im not fighting him he's 2 years older than me and way bigger haha


HAHA. So just letting you know, not all, but alot of women are going to take the "older" guy in a decision between two different males. They just feel more power from it i assume. (Except in my case because my ass got dumped). But anyway, im guessing she is young and may even possibly be excited by the challenge of an older dude. DONT SIT AROUND HELPLESSLY. Keep talking to other girls and hang with your buds and stuff. If anything just give her time and show her that your not scared of him. Be a man, nut up (like the older guy is doing with ease) and take her out on a date. I dont know if you have a car or not. but if you dont, than you probally just lost the battle anyway. Some girls like material, some like power, some like sensitivity. If this girl you like is more into the excitement of an older guy, than just let it be. Dont take offense though if shes not into you because your in a position were its hard to win lol.
 

Riley Hughes

Steel Member
HAHA. So just letting you know, not all, but alot of women are going to take the "older" guy in a decision between two different males. They just feel more power from it i assume. (Except in my case because my ass got dumped). But anyway, im guessing she is young and may even possibly be excited by the challenge of an older dude. DONT SIT AROUND HELPLESSLY. Keep talking to other girls and hang with your buds and stuff. If anything just give her time and show her that your not scared of him. Be a man, nut up (like the older guy is doing with ease) and take her out on a date. I dont know if you have a car or not. but if you dont, than you probally just lost the battle anyway. Some girls like material, some like power, some like sensitivity. If this girl you like is more into the excitement of an older guy, than just let it be. Dont take offense though if shes not into you because your in a position were its hard to win lol.

the other guy has a car i just have my permit which means i have to drive with an adult... gay. and thanks for the advice.
 

Matt Ogle

Member
the other guy has a car i just have my permit which means i have to drive with an adult... gay. and thanks for the advice.


I figured it was something like that. Do your best to be confident and show her your the better man. I cant give any other advice than that though. Except dont feel stupid if she dates the idiot. Trust me its not you haha, when your that guys age you will have younger girls dying to be with you for no reason lol
 

TristanVesely

TristanVesely
ill give advice also :)
hahaha.
How many hot jewish girls are there?
But on a serious note, i like this girl. she likes me. she says no to being official because her parents think shes a slut (just got out of a relationship) but this girl means a hell of a lot to mean and its killin me. And she says the sweetest things, but she seems like the kinda girl that likes to move on from a toy after its lost its shine.
What to do?
 

Matt Ogle

Member
hahaha.
How many hot jewish girls are there?
But on a serious note, i like this girl. she likes me. she says no to being official because her parents think shes a slut (just got out of a relationship) but this girl means a hell of a lot to mean and its killin me. And she says the sweetest things, but she seems like the kinda girl that likes to move on from a toy after its lost its shine.
What to do?

Know a girl named Kambrie. Georgeous. The exact same way. I REFUSE to ask her on a date lol. If thats the way she seems, than thats most likely how she is. Don't get attatched to her. If she has already said she doesnt want to date you, then be prepared for nothing to work out ever. But still, just dating girls is fun. Hangout with her a ton and get some smoochie action (if your character allows it. if your CRAZY about this girl than dont get yourself attatched). Just have fun with her on the terms that you are clearly just going on dates and are not in a committed relationship. Dont work towards dating her at all, and at the end of the process she will either fall for you and everything will work out, or she will move on to a new guy and that will be the end. As long as your not kidding yourself and you rationally know she doesnt want a relationship with you, i highly suggest to live it up with her and make some awesome memories.
 
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